The qualities of a successful Guardian (part 1)
A man leads
a family. Al-Qur'an has entrusted the responsibility of important leadership in
the neck of men. Men's leadership in family, society and the nation is a
culture that comes from the primitive, which is due to natural causes. Man's
mood, temperamental behavior, firmness, courage, adverse environment - not
emotion - rather, intellectual ability to make decisions, moreover, the
physical ability to arrange the bread in the winter-monsoon-spring-spring
sun-rain, light-dark situations have made him sit in the chair of leadership.
So the man must obey the role of the main Guardian of a family.
In the
present world, except for a few countries, women are enjoying women's rights in
all countries, rights and responsibilities, equal opportunities as men. Yet, in
most of the society, men are performing the main role of leadership. Most of
the cabinet members or parliament members in any country of the world are male.
The present feminists have raised their demand for equality with men by making
necessary changes in women and children, it will also be against the decision
of the Divine decision, in contrast to the uncommon rules of nature which will
never be beneficial for humanity. The big evidence of this is that all of what
has happened against human nature has proved to be harmful for humanity, nature
and environment.
A
family's main guardianship will be in the hands of men. And in that case, men
will have to achieve several skills, which will help them in performing their
duties.
The
Prophets were the most complete reflection of the human qualities, in those
days. Prophets were directly guided by
God, so they were on the verge of perfect, idealistic height. It is not
possible for ordinary people to lead life like the Prophets (peace be upon
them), but it is possible to organize life nicely following them.
Allah says in Surah Ahzab
“Verily in the messenger of Allah ye have a good
example for him who looketh unto Allah and the last Day, and remembereth Allah
much.’’ (33:21)
As a
person, he will try to follow all the teachings of Allah's Messenger. Keeping
the ideals of Allah's Messenger in front of him, he will always stand in the
court of justice. He will see that there are some flaws in it, and he will have
to be more careful
In this
case, a successful Guardian will have to ensure achieving the following
qualities:
One:
Adoption of ideals
A
guardian is the guard of his family and children's training. And if the guard is
himself a bad person, then what will he teach others? If you are accustomed to
drinking cigarettes yourself, and advise other family members, you do not drink
cigarettes; because it is harmful, your advice will fly in the air like smoke.
There will be no positive feedback among those who are advising. As such, the
adoption of a standard for a Guardian is an essential quality, whose absence
will break the entire process of the Guardianship and it is obvious.
Two:
Tolerance and Sustainability
The
Guardian must be discreet. Emotionally, he does not have to do anything right
after coming it into your mind. He has to be tolerant enough. The decision must
be taken into consideration. Endurance and well-being are the good qualities of
Allah, in the hadeeth. The Messenger of Allah (pbuh) said to a companion:
'There are two qualities in you that are pleasing to Allah, tolerance, and
patience. [Muslim: Hadith No. 17]
Tolerance
and Sustainability are that when you see your children doing any wrong, do not go
in fury with furious rituals, in this case you have to follow the example of
the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him). In the beginning, you
ask him why he did that, then let him know what is right about this. Explain
what he has done wrong. Simultaneously give her a little love. Maybe he will be
corrected. Rafi ibn Amr came to a hadith narrated by al-Ghifari, he said:
During my childhood, I used to pour the palm of the Ansar tree, and then went
to the Messenger of Allah (pbuh) and said,
Narrated
by al-Ghifari, he said: During my childhood, I used to pelt to an Ansar's date tree, and then its been said to the Messenger of Allah SW that,
A boy is
pelting our date tree. Then I was taken to the Prophet Pbuh. The Prophet Pbuh
said to me, "What is the reason behind your throwing on the date
tree?" I said: eat (dates). He said: Do not pelt on the date tree. Eat
whatever falls below the tree. Then he put his hand on my head and said, 'O
Allah! You satisfy its belly. [Imam Tirmidhi said the hadith is pure]
Another
demand for tolerance and calm is not to beat the children. Many of us think
that children cannot be manned if they do not beat. This is wrong. Rather, it
is necessary to purify children's faults through wisdom and foresight. Abu
Umama came to a hadith narrated from the Prophet (peace be upon him), he said:
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) came with two boys, gave
one of them Ali (Razi) and said, Do not kill it, because I forbid me to kill
the mosque Has been [Albani: Sahih Adanaq Mufrad]
Before
giving the punishment to the child, the mood-nature of a child must be
understood. The child will have to say repeatedly about the wrong. Ibn Khaldun
ra Said, 'Whoever teaches students by beating and excessive force then the
enthusiasm will take off the laziness will take place. This act will lead him
to lies and disaster; He will do this because the fear of repression will fall
on him. Suppression will teach him cheating and deception. This will be his
habit afterwards. Humanity, which was intended to teach him, would be
distraught.
Experienced
witness that the beat does not bring any positive result. Most of the time,
beatings bring in opposite results. Beatles weaken the will of the child's
desires, abolishes the emotions of consciousness, and reduces the spirits of
enthusiasm. If the child gets a person beside him always that he should be
responsible for wise and beautiful languages, he will be motivated to work.
Then there is no need for a severe punishment. ( to be continued)
