16 Etiquette of talking to people you must know

16 Etiquette of talking to people you must know

In dealing with others, Islam has created some rules that should be followed by a Muslim, it should always be firmly believed that he should be accountable for what he says and he will be rewarded for good words and punished for evil.

In verse 18 of Surah Qaf, Allah Almighty says, which means," Man does not utter any word except that with him is an observer prepared [to record]."

The Prophet (pbuh) warned us that it is very dangerous. According to Tirmidhi and Ibn Majah, in a Sahih Hadith narrated in the Reva, the Prophet (peace be upon him) said: "A person may say something that is pleasing to Allah, and he does not think too much about it, but Allah gives importance to it and the end for that He is pleased with him on the day of judgement. And a person speaks that it is disliked to Allah but he does not take it seriously, but Allah will be angry at him on the Day of Judgment. "

Conversations can be dangerous. So we will try to control it through the guidance of the Islamic Rule, Allah and His Messenger. Here are some ways to control speech

1. The purpose of your talk should be great and beneficial. If you are unable to speak well, then you should adopt silence, because it is good for you. In a Sahih Hadith narrated by Imam Bukhari and Muslim, the Prophet (peace be upon him) said: "Whoever believes in God and the Day of Judgment should be good while talking or keep silent."

2. Strive to be truthful and refrain from lying, because the believer is always truthful and does not even resort to falsehood even when doing fun. The Messenger (peace be upon him), narrated in Bukhari and Muslim, says: "You will speak the truth because the truth leads to honesty and honesty leads to Paradise. The person who always speaks the truth and holds the truth, he is considered to be truthful with Allah. Stay away from lying, because the false direction leads to evil and evil is the way of hell. Whoever stays in falsehood and intends to lie, he is regarded as a liar with Allah. "

3. Be careful while talking to whispering, refrain from disobedience to Allah by your words of cheating or wholly, because Allah hates disobedience, curse. Unobtrusive talk is the kind of speech that reveals disobedience to Allah, and cursed speech is to curse others, not to give attention and to hurt others. That is why the Prophet (pbuh) warned us in a Sahih Hadith: "The believer does not blame anyone, does not curse, does not disobey Allah or cheat others."

In another Sahih Hadith he says: "Curse for a Muslim is involved in disobedience." Curse of the deceased is prohibited as it is forbidden and curse on living is also prohibited. The Prophet (peace be upon him) has forbidden us to say: "Do not curse the dead, because they have passed through their earthly deeds." In another Sahih Hadith, he forbids us to say: "Always talk good about the dead."

 4. Refrain from gibah (libel) (in some absence of anything that is said in her presence, she gets hurt) and do not be coward against one another. Stay away from saying Namimah (this is the talk of spreading hatred towards one another), because the Prophet (peace be upon him) said in a Sahih Hadith: "He who practices the Namimah cannot enter Paradise."

5. Refrain from taking oath without requiring.  Says: "Do not use Allah's name as a shield for your oaths." (Surah Al-Baqarah: 224)

6. Talk according to your knowledge and skills and do not talk about what you do not know. Allah says: "You do not have any knowledge about which you have no knowledge." (Surah Al-Israah: 36)

7. Speak confidently, do not say what you hear without verifying and confirmation, because you can hear false and true and suspicious conversation from others. If you listen to what you hear, then you will be the sharer of sin. In the Sahih Hadith, the Prophet (pbuh) warned us thus: "It is sufficient for a person to commit sins, so he preaches what he hears."

8. Explain the purpose of saying something while making a conversation with others that make sure that your point of view is to reach the truth and disclose a false statement. And do not be enthusiastic about whether you or someone else has reached the truth or whether it is false.

9. Avoid getting involved in any unnecessary issues (whose main purpose is to defame others or win over others). For this reason, in a Sahih Hadith narrated by Tirmidhi, the Prophet (peace be upon him) warned: "They have gone astray despite receiving guidance from God, because they were involved in unnecessary reasoning."

Avoid discussing unnecessarily, though the truth is in your favor. In another Sahih Hadith narrated by Imam Abu Daud, the Prophet (peace be upon him) said: "I guarantee a house surrounded by a paradise for the person who does not engage in unnecessary debate despite being correct."

10. Make your statement clear and refined, and avoid the uncomfortable words and avoid unnecessary speech, and do not say anything that would disturb others, because the Prophet (pbuh) used to hate this kind of speech. In a Sahih Hadith narrated by Tirmidhi, the Prophet (peace be upon him) said: "I hate those people, and they will be far away from me on the Day of Resurrection, who speak unnecessarily and condemn others when he talks."

 11. Make your speech understandable, clear, audible, and to others. The Prophet (pbuh) used to repeat the words three times to make sure that it was understandable, but his speech was easy so that everyone could understand.

12. Do not be ridiculed: Be sincere in talking and do not make much mockery, and if you do, try to be truthful like Prophet Muhammad (pbuh).

13. Do not disturb him while talking to anyone and keep listening until he completes his speech, and later on, he can make important and important aspects of the good and beneficial aspects of his speech, not that you will talk unnecessarily.

14. Talk and debate, which is beautifully deprived of harm, injury,  and ridicule towards others. All messenger have ordered to use this kind of speech. At the time of sending Moses and his brother Aaron to Pharaoh, Allah said: "When you are presenting your guidance, you will speak humbly with him, maybe he will accept your advice or he will fear me." Surah :Taha 44)

So you are not better than Moses or 'Haroon (peace be upon him), or the one with whom you speak is worse than the Pharaoh.

15. Do not completely exclude someone's statement only because you have found a combination of right and wrong and true or false in his statements. You will accept the truth and the correct statement and only exclude evil and falsehood, and this is the fair order of God to us.

16. Stay away from over self-confidence; Do not present yourself as a supplement or a decision in front of a person, because it is the result of arrogance, which Allah has forbidden us, through the verse 32 of Surah An-Najm, "Therefore do not provoke your hypocrisy. He knows well who is moderate. "

May Allah guide us towards straight path.